I interviewed the best pediatrician today. She has to be great, she let me hound her with my ridiculous questions about her child rearing philosophy's and immunization flexibilities for over an hour. Not only that but we were both still smiling when the meeting was over. Its so great when you click with someone and I feel great knowing Brian and I will be supported by our doctor.
She works in an office with two other pediatricians and a nurse practitioner, all whom are Christian's. Which was numero uno on my list. They admit Patience's to Mary Bridge (One of the best children's hospitals around) and they round at the two other hospitals near us. I couldn't really ask for more, except maybe never having to go to the hospital, but I wont hold my breath.
Now there are two more meetings with the social worker and we will be ready and waiting.
Thursday, February 28, 2008
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Heavy Questions
Now is the time when Brian and I have to ask ourselves some big questions. Liane, our social worker charged us with a few things to work on and think about:
*What are our preferences in a child?
*Do I want to breastfeed our adopted child?
*Who will we use as our pediatrician?
...the list went on, but I don't want to bore you with the details.
Brian and I are lucky that I (Marta) am such a freak that I really had a lot of those bases already covered, or at least researched them and given them some thought.
As for our unborn child, we willing accept what God has chosen for us. We will not discriminate against sex, a disability, or race. In our first conversation about race Brian and I thought, well race does not matter to us, we don't care if we raise an Asian, Black or Indian child. We will love them just the same. What were we thinking?.. Race does matter, and it should...love is not enough for a trans racial child. If we say race does not matter we ignore it, rather than celebrate it. I read an article and a specific quote hit me between the eyes, " Our "white privilege" is a social asset they share peripherally when with us, but can't own or take with them." Sondra S Corsy, M.D. Wow, how true is that. People of different races learn to navigate through society differently and do so based on their culture's expectations and the expectations of others outside their culture.
This is not to say people should not adopt trans racially, they should. Brian and I welcome a child of another race into our home along with its challenges. We realize that when you do you need to expand your social circle and knowledge of that culture.
As for breastfeeding our adopted child, I (Marta) plan to. Sorry if thats too much info. I always thought I might want to, and the more research I do on the subject I can't imagine not breastfeeding. For those of you not familiar with the concept, it is possible through lactation induction. I wont go into details but I will say, what a gift this is for my future child and I. Anyone curious about the details and process should feel free to ask me, I am happy to share.
*What are our preferences in a child?
*Do I want to breastfeed our adopted child?
*Who will we use as our pediatrician?
...the list went on, but I don't want to bore you with the details.
Brian and I are lucky that I (Marta) am such a freak that I really had a lot of those bases already covered, or at least researched them and given them some thought.
As for our unborn child, we willing accept what God has chosen for us. We will not discriminate against sex, a disability, or race. In our first conversation about race Brian and I thought, well race does not matter to us, we don't care if we raise an Asian, Black or Indian child. We will love them just the same. What were we thinking?.. Race does matter, and it should...love is not enough for a trans racial child. If we say race does not matter we ignore it, rather than celebrate it. I read an article and a specific quote hit me between the eyes, " Our "white privilege" is a social asset they share peripherally when with us, but can't own or take with them." Sondra S Corsy, M.D. Wow, how true is that. People of different races learn to navigate through society differently and do so based on their culture's expectations and the expectations of others outside their culture.
This is not to say people should not adopt trans racially, they should. Brian and I welcome a child of another race into our home along with its challenges. We realize that when you do you need to expand your social circle and knowledge of that culture.
As for breastfeeding our adopted child, I (Marta) plan to. Sorry if thats too much info. I always thought I might want to, and the more research I do on the subject I can't imagine not breastfeeding. For those of you not familiar with the concept, it is possible through lactation induction. I wont go into details but I will say, what a gift this is for my future child and I. Anyone curious about the details and process should feel free to ask me, I am happy to share.
Friday, February 15, 2008
Pregnancy of the heart
It has been a while since our last post, and a lot has happened since then. We recieved our acceptance letter from Adoption Ministries and it is safe to say, We are pregnant! Not in the physical, but in our hearts. If you have never seen a pregnant man before... get a load of Brian. Not only do we get to be pregnant together, we get to share in a seemingly identical journey of pregnancy of the heart. Weird, I know. We know we are getting a baby, we just have to wait a while...be pregnant for a while. They say it's resonable to wait six to nine months, however it could be much sooner or even a little longer. We will trust in God's timing as to when.
Also we started our homestudy today. A homestudy is when a state social worker (our's is Liane) makes a series of 3 to 4 visits to our home over the span of a month. Each time she comes she interviews Brian and I about different topics, anything from how we felt growing up to our preferences in a child or our philosphies on dicipline. Oh and they inspect our home for safety and such too. Then she compiles all she knows about us in a 50 page book and sends it to the state where a judge will give the final "seal of approval" allowing us to become parents through adoption.
Also we started our homestudy today. A homestudy is when a state social worker (our's is Liane) makes a series of 3 to 4 visits to our home over the span of a month. Each time she comes she interviews Brian and I about different topics, anything from how we felt growing up to our preferences in a child or our philosphies on dicipline. Oh and they inspect our home for safety and such too. Then she compiles all she knows about us in a 50 page book and sends it to the state where a judge will give the final "seal of approval" allowing us to become parents through adoption.
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